I was watching the new season of The Marvelous Mrs. Maisel, the popular Amazon series. I had been enjoying its non-violent, not oversexed, generally light-hearted in nature, a great relief during these crazy days in the world.
Themes did emerge as the characters grew and expanded.
The head character, Miriam Maisel faced a huge work obstacle at the end of the last season. I was admittedly annoyed because I wanted the happy-go-lucky nature of the writing to continue. When the new episodes recently aired curiosity took over as to where they would go from here.
As I watched it became blatantly obvious that what Mrs. Maisel was experiencing is a lesson and example of what we all go through at one time or another. Reinventing our lives, completely starting from scratch.
For those of us who have faced life and death trauma or have walked away from careers marriages, homes, uncomfortable jobs, or toxic relationships we can all relate. Whether the sharp life change was planned or not is irrelevant, it happened. The question then becomes, what do I do NOW?
As I watched Maisel all the way through episode two it hit me hard, she is literally recreating her career and her life. I don’t want to spoil the story if you haven’t seen season one, but I will say this, a sharp change of direction occurred. Admittedly these new episodes were, at moments, uncomfortable to watch. She had to face her life fully and figure out that earlier question: What NOW?
When have you had the opportunity to completely start over? Like most of us, the initial reaction was probably fear, anxiety, anger, frustration fatigue, or any combination of the above. Let’s be real. Who wants to have to rebuild one or more parts of your life?
I could so relate to Mrs. Maisel. As a dancer, having my leg crushed by a bus, I knew life would never be the same. No matter how mad or depressed I got it wasn’t going to bring the old life back. After a period of wallowing, it was time to shift the focus forward. It was scary, terrifying, actually. There were so many unanswered questions. What could my freshly rebuilt leg do? Would anyone ever love me? What kind of work would I do now and so on.
Mrs. Maisel, with the help of a friend, wakes up to the fact that it was time to take the reins of her life. That’s when things started to shift. This was also my experience. Like Mrs. Maisel, there was no plan at first, just a clear determination and intentional direction. We learned from our mistakes and setbacks. The unexpected outcome was a clearer vision and belief in our own ability.
Having the routine and ease taken away opened space for something bigger and better. The opportunities didn’t fall into place immediately but with action and a willingness to figure it out came fresh energy.
This idea is what I have termed ‘Transforming Trauma into Triumph’. I had to create a new reality. The old life was gone and lamenting it got old and frankly, boring. The panic was replaced with a sense of confidence that yes, this WILL turn around. I WILL be O.K. Anything really IS possible.
If you are feeling like the rug has been pulled out from under you, or the situation is beyond repair, I encourage you to rejoice. Take the moment to plunge ahead and create a new version on your terms.
Never underestimate the power of your life.
You are WINNING!