The definition of insanity is famously said to be doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result.
I’m sure we have all been stuck in this loop at one time or another. Recent experience has taught me that perhaps the best thing to do is simply stop. I mean stop everything.
Now, I’m not talking about basic needs like income sources or childcare, but pretty much everything else. If we are feeling unfulfilled, resentful, depressed, angry or any of this list then clearly something is energetically and practically not working,
Often, we know it’s happening but don’t dare to face the obstacle. That’s O.K for the time being. But like an avalanche that builds power, eventually we will find ourselves crashing and burning.
What can we do? For me the answer is STOP.
It helps that it’s summer and we can be outside and often in a more relaxed frame of mind.
It can be painful and disheartening to take a good hard look at areas of our lives where things just aren’t working. As we well know by now, everything in our environment reflects our life state ,so it’s ultimately up to us to step back, reset and take a good hard look at where we are and where we want to be.
If the path we have been on just isn’t getting the desired results, then yes, it’s time for that big 5 letter word CHANGE.
Truth be told if we keep doing the same things in the same way we will most likely get the same results. The only way to create a different outcome is the willingness to observe and start implementing something different.
Look, I am not saying this is going to be easy, but that’s O.K. The question that has kept me up nights lately is am I willing to stay in this loop or am I willing to take the necessary action to create a different outcome?
Sometimes we start on a goal or a dream and put a lot of time, money, and energy into seeing it through. As we also know, no cause is ever wasted so congratulations for making the effort.
However, there comes a time when our wants and needs change. Maybe the overhead is just too much. Maybe we want to move in another life direction. Maybe we are tired of being in an unhappy and toxic relationship. Whatever the case becoming open to doing something different often helps alleviate the angst.
To make this transition, often the best thing to do is just STOP what we have been doing. Step back, take a breath and pull the focus. This allows time and space for clarity.
In this day and age of information overload and social media creating a culture of compare and despair, I urge you to try on a little less is more. Some people may disagree but that is part of our growth process of being true to ourselves and our needs.
What other people think of me and my decisions is none of my business.
So, if things have been feeling off for a while or you have been wanting to let go of a project or situation that has been dragging you down, I say congrats. It’s easy to be comfortably uncomfortable. But freedom comes in being honest with ourselves and not be afraid to shut the door on what’s not working so we can find what is working.
As the old saying goes, when one door is closed another opens.
YOU ARE WINNING!