Blame or Trust? Which is it?

We see it every day, in all outlets. No matter what’s being presented, there is always someone or something to blame. There is always an external force responsible for our suffering or lack of success.

This victim ideology has been carefully woven into our psyche, leading many to believe that external circumstances are the primary cause of their challenges and failures. It’s an effortless fallback.

A recent series of events and a seeming ‘failed venture’ had me falling into the trap. I found myself making excuses to make myself feel better about the situation not resulting as I had intended.

Grateful for a spiritual practice based in self-reflection and taking full responsibility, I sat with the discomfort. I stopped making excuses or blaming other people or my environment.

As the mental clutter cleared, what became apparent was the simple fact I was not trusting the process. Panning out from the immediate pain and disappointment and physical exhaustion, it also became clear the situation that I faced was also for my protection.

Technology has us all neurologically, physically, and emotionally overstimulated all the time. This behavior is intentional so we are less in tune with ourselves and our decisions.

How many times do we just immediately react without even a breath? The next moment is instant blame, shame, or finger-pointing. We become at the mercy of the moment and our environment.

Nonjudgmental reflection can be a tool to gain insight, wisdom, and learning. It’s how we grow and evolve.

There is also the idea of faith. This seems to be a buzzword. It’s easy to have ‘faith’ when things seem to go our way and we get what we think we want.

What happens when it seems like the bottom has dropped out, we get the rejection letter, the romantic interest doesn’t respond, we don’t get the job, etc.?

Do we then have faith that everything is happening as it should? Do we trust the process? Do we keep moving ahead, or do we start to play the blame game and become victims of our circumstances?

Trusting the process is freedom. Even in this continued state of global trauma, let’s work to find solace in real faith, no matter what your spiritual practice. This allows not only for personal growth but also a sense of joy and enthusiasm. It’s our choice. Blame or trust the process? Choose wisely.

This is how we Create Victory in Any Moment.