Reinvention is more than a New Haircut

In the months since the end of my campaign, a sense of disconnect, disbelief, rage, and uncertainty has been somewhat derailing. 

If you’ve ever experienced grief in any form, you know it can be debilitating. Questions arise as to our purpose and capacity, as well as a sense of doubt in ourselves and the world. This can be any type of grief. One event can ignite feelings of unresolved loss that we often bury deeply.

It can be confusing at first. As humans, we tend to attach to people, ideas of what we think we want, or dreams that may no longer serve us. When we feel like nothing is working or there is no forward movement, it’s easy to be discouraged and want to just give up. This state I know well. 

Recent events and apparent 'failures' have once again provided an opportunity for introspection. In our current climate, it’s easy to succumb to despair. It’s also the perfect time to redirect, reinvent, and perhaps realize the life we once lived or sought is no longer the story we want to continue. 

I say, let’s reinvent. What do we want life to look like moving forward? Even though the change may take some time, there is a sense of relief in allowing a state of curiosity. I find this sentiment especially true for dancers and artists of a certain age who are needing to morph a performance career. 

As we enter the spring and summer months, it's an ideal time to regroup. Start by asking the question, 'What do I really want?' The answer may bring up surprise, fear, or intrigue.

I’ve said it before, but it is worth repeating: everything in our environment reflects our life state. If we don't feel respected, we must ask ourselves how and why we permit it. Perhaps, as in my case, our worldviews have dramatically changed and now differ from those of who we once held close. It’s perfectly acceptable to seek a new, more like-minded community without anger or judgment, while still loving and respecting those with whom we have long been close.

Seeking new experiences is scary. I get it. Baby steps are again key to moving forward. Try one new connection a week. See if it fits. The process may take some time.

Personally, my new dream has nothing to do with my past life. There is grief over letting go of what I once held close to my heart and identity. We don’t need to know exactly how a reinvention will occur. We just need to start exploring. It may be best to keep ideas quiet, as people who are accustomed to knowing us in one capacity may not understand or embrace a new path.

Despite everything going on, we CAN continue to live joyous lives. DON’T WATCH ANY 'NEWS.' Take a social media and digital break. These small actions will help your nervous system reboot and relax.

As summer approaches, let's embrace the joy and laughter that come with it! Joy and laughter are some of the best tools for healing. You deserve it. 

I’m tasking myself and all of you to go have some FUN! This is how we create victory in any moment.